Church: (A Place of Peace OR Judgement)

Today/tonight's blog entry is about my experience i had currently at a church service i attend. I have been attending this church for most of my life. Through the years, multiple pastors have served their time; some I have like and some i have not.

At the most recent service i attended i was confronted by the present pastor, who i am not fond of. I had not been attending church for quite some time because of my busy schedule, but when ever i get the chance i make it my business to attend early service which starts at 6:15am oppose to the one that starts as 8:44am. Because i work on Sundays at 10:00am on most Sundays, I've always chosen to attend the early service.

At this particular service service the pastor approached me during fellowship/greeting time and asked, "I have not seen you at 8:45am church for a long time, whats the deal?" I replied, "I work on Sundays, so i choose to attend the 6:15am service." The pastor then made a face of disgust, and replied, "I hope you can tell God that." She then walked away shaking her head.

At this time i was so upset that she actually told me something like that. The church is suppose to be a place of peace, fellowship, not judgment, and disrespect. The pastor does not know my situation, and for her to make such a remark really offended me. Though i am busy i try my very best to go to church and praise the lord. I could have make the decision not to attend and simply go about my business.

As of that Sunday i have no more respect for this pastor. she is truly the emblem of two-face-tedness and judgment; everything a pastor should not be.

(leave a comment below and let me know if you think the pastor was right for what she told me or was she out of line)

To Spank OR Not to Spank Your Kids Children

Do agree of disagree that children should be spanked, beaten, or hit when they are defiant, rude or disrespectful? After watching "The Tyra Show" today i decided that i should do this entry. Recently at my place of employment, i noticed a mother and her child. The child was throwing items off the shelves, and was disobedient when the mother told here to stop. The mother then reached her limit, and then begun to hit her child. As i listened form the adjacent isle, i noticed the mother was not stopping. She was beating her child so hard the kid was falling on the ground, and berating heavily. After the mother was satisfied and the kid and recovered from the beating the kid sat quietly and did not move until the mother was ready to leave the shore.

Personally i do believe in spanking. I also believe that spanking or beating should not be the only option when you discipline your child. Speaking and talking things out is also necessary. Yes kids need to be hit sometimes when talking is not enough. Spanking your child will help them understand not to do what they did before that was wrong.

One lady on "The Tyra Show" said all she does is talk to her child and talk away things that make him happy. Her son had broken a window in her home, and she talked to him and took away his X-box, ipod etc.
In my opinion that just makes the kid sad. Her kid should have been spanked. What he did was wrong and he needed to be disciplined.

When it all boils down to it, i believe that there should be an equal balance of both spanking, and talking to a child when disciplining them. Spanking can only do so much and so can just talking. In conclusion, different people discipline their children differently and how they want them to be raised.

What are your opinions? Do you think kids should be spanked, only talked to, or a mixture of both.
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Sexual Awareness: Is there an appropriate age?

"Your too young to be involved in those things!" screamed an angry sister. "I already know about these things already!, what the hell are you talking about?"
As i listened to the argument the two sisters were having next to me, about the younger sister of the two holding in her position a box of condoms. The older sister apparently was upset that her younger sister at the age of13 was even holding a box of condoms.
"You better not be having sex, or talking to those lil boys at school!", the older sister continued. "I know all about sex!, and i know all the risks already, so leave me alone!" screamed the younger sister.

After hearing the short dialogue, i decided to make this blog entry. Is there an appropriate age that an individual should be exposed to sex? Can that person be too young?, and is there a right time to be sexually aware?

In my opinion there is no appropriate age to be sexually aware. It all boils down to the person maturity level. If that person is at a point were they can understand, and comprehend the risks and ambiance that sex entails they should not be deprived of any information that could potentially make that person more sexually aware.

My intent is not to encourage any one to have sex if they are not ready. If both parties involved are at a comfortable level of maturity and mentally, physically, and emotionally ready to have sex, they should then come to a unanimous decision to have sex.

PS. If you do decide to have sex, please warp it up. Wear a condom. H.I.V. and A.I.D.S. is not cool.

-Genesis

The Whole Truth or No Truth/ The Truth Hurts

Everyone wants to be told the truth, though sometimes it may not be the nicest thing. Recently one of my friends came to me for advice on a guy she had been dating for quite sometime. "He rarely calls me, and when he does call, its seems like he is only hungry for sex" she said. As I shook my head and asked, "how long have you guys been going out, and is he complementing you in positive way?" She sadly replied, "one month and couple days, and we don't really talk, we just have sex most of the time."
I my mind, from what i was hearing, this guy seemed like player. He was simply using my friend as a "fuck box". (someone with no sense whose soul purpose is to just have sex and die)

"Girl, cant you see this dude is using you!? Y'all rarely talk or even been on an official date! You gave it up the second time to meet him, and from what you tell me, he don't want noting from you but your pussy!" My friend gave me a look from hell. She rolled her eyes as hard as she could and walked away. I guessed she could not handle the truth. She seemed extremely upset by what i told her.

My point is this, no one wants to be lied to. If i had encouraged my friend into thinking that this guy was something nice or even worth having, she would still have the mentality that this man was actually trying to be a real man to her. Having me tell her the truth, and potentially opening her eyes could possibly encourager her to see the reality of the situation.

It may hurt, and in some cases it might even make you cry but there is nothing better than the truth. Lies can destroy relationships, and sometimes even families.

In conclusion, try to tell the truth always. Its not always easy to but if you do decide to tell the truth, tell the whole truth or no truth at all.

-Genesis

America Steps Up on Same Sex Marriage Licensess

As you can see by today's blog topic entry title, ill be giving my take on how America is making a great attempt on accepting gays and legalizing same sex marriage. As i skimmed though today's edition of the local new paper, one article commanded my attention right away. The article was entitled "Same-sex couples wed in D.C." I immediately read the article and was just blown away.

"Equality and justice for all now includes us," said Rev. Darlene Garner who was there to wed the lovely couple. Just about a little over 100 people stayed for the ceremonies. Family and friends all witnessed the magical day on Tuesday March 9, 2010.

Washington D.C. is now added to the list of places that issue same-sex couples marriage licenses along with Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire and Vermont. Seeing that just blighted my day. Finally Americas is making attempts to finally give the the LGBT some well deserved freedom.

Marriage should not be limited to anyone because of their sexual orientation or preference. Its just not right. Like i said in a previous blog entry, "for a country that self proclaims its self as the land of the free and justice for all they sure do a lot of judging and liming of civil freedoms."

Concluding today's blog entry, I'm extremely happy to see America stepping its game up and getting with the program on legalizing gay marriages and allowing couples to receive marriage licences. I leave you with this final thought, love is a powerful thing, so why be deprived in taking it to the next level?

PS. Love has no gender

-Genesis

Who Am I To Judge

Today blog entry topic is about judging other people, by how the person look.

Today after school i made my way to work i saw a young man. He was about my height, African American, low cut fade, and wearing all black. My first thoughts were, "there goes another thug." I said that because in my community all the gangs are represented by colors, and one of the gangs colors just so happen to be black. The young man also wore baggy clothes, extremely dark shades and was smoking a joint.

After seeing that i decided to be a little nosey and observe him some more. The young man then stopped to speak with another guy. This guy was dressed in a rather professional wear, long sleeves, blazer, and dress pants. I then walked a little closer to drop in on their conversation. I then hear the young man in black spoke. I was shocked and amazed when he said, " I'm here for the job interview." Now when i heard that i was like, "dressed like that?" The gentleman in the suit then replied, " OK meet me inside and we will get started."
After getting some food and finished eating it, the thug emerged from the building smiling. He held what looked like his resume, and came out shaking the other gentleman's hand. Apparently he had gotten the job.

The point of my story is this, it was not my place to judge the young man. I went off of how he was dressed and assumed that he was a thug up to no good. Apparently i was wrong. Though he was not appropriately dressed for the occasion, he had his head on, he came got his interview, and got the job on the spot.

That goes to show, don't judge others off how they dress. You just may be wrong. Its not any ones place or authority to judge someone especially when you don't know the person to begin with.

In conclusion, take the time to ask a question, attempt to get to know someone before you judge them.

-Genesis

Social Networks for Love

For all my followers that keep up with my post I am terribly sorry that i did post a blog entry yesterday.(Friday March,5) I was very busy with school work. Balancing the two can become really hard some times. Non the less, I just had to get up this Saturday morning and give my supporters at least one blog entry. So here it is, "Social Networks for love". Read on to get my take on people who use social networks to find love and relationships.

ps. Blogging schedule= Mon.-Wed.& Fri- Blogging topics/ No blogging= Sat.&Sun. (schedule my altered if by request of topic or breaking topic! (that is all)


Now for today's blog entry topic, Social Networking for Love. Ill be giving my take on why people use social networks as an outlet for love, is it effective, and can love actually last over the Internet using a social network.

When i was younger,(like 13) i discovered social networking and also became a member of my first social network. Like most things it started off fun and exciting. I practicaly lived on that social networking site. It was not surprise that soon i would look for romance using the sight. I messaged people that peaked my interest, and talked to random individuals. I meet a couple of people and actually caught feeling for some of them. Soon enough i came to the realization that more than half of these people of the net was not who they said they were and will i ever even meet these people in the outside world. "No." That is when i said no more of that for me, and no longer used social networking for love. Now I use social networking sites to meet friends that share similar interest as me, and for promotional reasons.

On any given day i would check my Facebook profile and stumble upon countless messages form both genders asking for my number, and asking me personal information about my self. I often shake my head at the ones that seem extremely thirsty for love.

If i can recall, i remember on message saying, "Hey Genesis, i really like you and i wanna be with you. i just wana be the one to hold you down, give you what you need,and make you feel good. Im so in love with you. please respond." Upon reading that i was in awe. I asked myself, " is this person serious?" It amazed me how i did not even know the person and the were willing to be with me for what looked like a life time.

Now don't get me wrong, i do know people who have found their partners through a social networking site. I'm not going to knock it and say that its corny, and a waste of time. If your willing to actually get to know the person, and take the time to see what they are actually abut the possibility are endless.

In conclusion, social networks are a great way to communicate and get to know new people. In some cases even for looking for that significant other. If your going to use a social networking site as a means for finding love or romance, take the time to get to know the person, don't come on to strong and desperate, don't be a stalker, and just be real.

-Genesis